I want to share a personal reflection that may help if you're currently trying to figure out your love life. Whether you’re wondering if you should remain single or pursue marriage, I hope these words give you clarity and peace. As a Christian, I live by specific values and beliefs that shape the way I see relationships. This post isn’t about what the world says, it’s about offering two pieces of advice based on faith, prayer, and trust in God. These are my perspectives, and they’re meant to guide anyone who might feel confused or unsure.

Step One: Set Clear Goals. Before anything else, you need to know what you want. Do you want to remain single forever? Or do you desire to get married one day? Be honest with yourself and set clear goals. That’s the first and most important step—because without direction, it’s easy to be swayed by feelings or pressure from others.

If You Choose to Remain Single. If your goal is to stay single, then pray every day and ask God for strength. You’re still human, and even if you have the genuine desire to remain single, temptations may come. You might feel emotions that make you doubt your decision or even fail. But if you keep seeking the Lord, you’ll reach a point where no emotional attraction or passing feeling will pull you away from your purpose. One of the things I’ve learned is that a peaceful mind generates power, and when you live with intention and prayer, you stay strong—even when temptations knock at your door.

If You Desire to Get Married. If you’ve decided that you want to get married one day, then start praying for the right person now. Do not date just for fun, and definitely don’t go around trying to fill the emptiness with meaningless flings. My advice is simple: date to marry. If you're not at least 90% sure that someone could be your spouse, don’t begin a romantic relationship with them at all. Instead of “goofing around” with people, use that time to pray for the one God is preparing for you. Ask for wisdom and discernment. Remember that physical attraction can be dangerous—especially in moments of vulnerability or during your teenage years. It’s easy to confuse attraction with love. So if you catch feelings for someone, don’t jump right away. Take a step back. Reflect. And most importantly, ask God if that person is truly meant for you. He will answer—maybe not instantly, but eventually. And remember: God’s timing is perfect.

No matter what path you choose—whether it’s singleness or marriage—make sure God is at the center of your decision. Life isn’t about rushing or chasing what others have. It’s about walking with God, trusting that He has the best for you. One quote I’ve shared before and still hold onto is: “Praise, pray, and seek the Lord.” When you do those three things, even in your confusion or loneliness, He will strengthen you. Another thing I believe deeply is this: “You are not missing out on life just because you’re waiting. You are being prepared for something greater.”