Quote: "Not even a single scar came from the enemy. Read that again."

Have you ever read something and felt it hit right where your heart is still healing? This quote did that for me. At first, it sounds simple, but it reveals something uncomfortable and real: The deepest scars don’t always come from the people we label as “enemies.”

Sometimes, they come from the people we love. Let’s pause there. Why does it hurt more when the damage comes from someone close? A friend. A family member. Someone you trusted. It’s confusing, right? Because these are the people who care about you and yet, they sometimes cause harm through harsh words, silence, or repeated mistakes. It’s not always intentional. Sometimes they don’t realize what they’re doing. But other times… maybe they do. And that’s where the pain multiplies.

“Is this someone I need to set a boundary with? Or is this someone I need to pray for and understand better?”

This quote makes me reflect on how we often prepare ourselves for battles with the “enemy” we’re alert, guarded, ready. But we leave our hearts wide open for the ones we love. And that’s exactly why a single word from them can cut deeper than a thousand attacks from a stranger. I’m not saying the enemy doesn’t hurt us. Of course, it does. But we often overlook where most of our wounds are coming from. And the hardest part? We keep going back to the same people. Why? Because we love them. Because we want things to get better. Because we’re humans.

I remember one day; a close relative tried to convince me to do something I knew in my heart wasn’t right. I stood up for myself and clearly explained that I didn’t feel comfortable doing it. But instead of respecting my boundary, this person began using something that seemed trustworthy (written evidence) to pressure me. The problem was that he was completely taking it out of context. He twisted the original meaning of the source, ignoring its full explanation, just to justify his own actions. they would say things like, “Look, it clearly says this—I don’t know what your problem is,” but deep down, I knew something was off. They wanted me to accept an apparent truth that wasn’t actually true. That’s what made it so painful not just the pressure, but the fact that he used something that should have been reliable as a tool to manipulate me.

Now, with time and reflection, I see that what I experienced was gaslighting a form of emotional abuse. It wasn't just about what was said; it was how it was used against me to make me doubt my own convictions. I thank God that I didn’t give in. I know now that manipulation can come from the people we least expect, and it can leave deep emotional scars. But God has protected me and still does. Even when I didn’t fully understand what was happening, He was there, guiding me through.

As a consequence, all of this didn’t just affect me emotionally, it broke me inside. I was still very young, but already feeling like the world around me was unsafe, like I had no place to breathe. I was supposed to be protected, especially at home. But instead, the very person who was meant to take care of me, to love me and guard me, became the source of manipulation, confusion, and emotional pressure.

I fell into a deep darkness. I began to feel worthless. At times, I thought there was no way out, and I even had moments when I felt like ending my life was the only option. That’s how heavy it became, when love feels like a weapon and your own mind becomes a battlefield.

But even in that place, God saw me. And looking back now, I realize that He was never absent. He was fighting for me, even when I didn’t have the strength to pray. It’s a miracle that I’m still here. And it’s even more of a miracle that those dark moments shaped me they made me stronger, and more compassionate. I know now that your story doesn't end in the pit. There is healing. There is light. And God is able to restore you.

Finally, this quote reminds me to examine where my pain comes from, but also to not become bitter because of it. It’s not about blaming others. It’s about becoming more aware, more intentional with our relationships, and more rooted in truth. God teaches us to forgive, yes, but also to guard our hearts. To love without losing ourselves. And to let go when something becomes destructive. Healing takes honesty. So next time someone hurts you, ask yourself:

Thank you!